COACHING YOUR HUSBAND IN THE ROMANCE DEPARTMENT (Part 2)
So what says romance to you?
You cannot very well expect your husband to know if you’re not even sure of the answer yourself. So take some time to consider some of your husband’s romantic gestures in the past. And then tell him how you found those actions romantic.
For example, when our children were young, I made sure Steve knew the most romantic thing he could do for me was to clean up the dinner dishes and get the kids bathed and into bed–while I took a hot bath. This romantic act was most certainly met with a grateful wife and some sweet lovemaking that evening.
When your husband makes an effort to be romantic, help him know when he is on the right track. Remember, he is likely putting himself into a situation where he feels inadequate.
This means your husband might think he is risking humiliation if he gets it wrong. He may even believe he will lose your respect if his attempt at romance fails.
So if he ruins the dinner he was making––or, as in my case––he pays too much for flowers you can’t afford, don’t humiliate him.
One man said, “If I make the effort to be romantic and she laughs at me, you can be sure I won’t put myself in that vulnerable position again for a very long time.”*
Remember, most husbands are in uncharted waters when they attempt to be romantic. 1 Peter 3:7 instructs husbands to “dwell with their wives according to knowledte”.
You are the only one who can give him that knowledge.
If you spend the rest of your life coaching your husband what speaks romance to you, you have a better chance of being romanced in a manner you long for.*
No Regrets Woman
RHONDA STOPPE IS THE NO REGRETS WOMAN. As an author and speaker, she is dedicated to helping women live life with no regrets. With over 20 years experience as a mom, mentor, and pastor’s wife, Rhonda’s wisdom and experience helps women:
-Discover significance in God and His specific purpose for their lives
-Connect biblical principles to everyday decisions.
-Develop a loving marriage that others dream about.
-Influence the next generation by raising children with integrity.
-Leave a legacy of a life well-lived with NO REGRETS!
*Excerpt IF MY HUSBAND WOULD CHANGE I’D BE HAPPY & Other Myths Wives Believe
(Harvest House Publishers 2015)
