Why Your Son Needs a Strong Christian Support System by Rhonda Stoppe

In a society that often places emphasis on stoicism and self-reliance, the need for men to have a strong Christian support system is often overlooked or downplayed. Men are expected to be tough, resilient, and independent, but the reality is that everyone, regardless of gender, can benefit from having a network of supportive individuals to lean on during challenging times. As a mom, it is important to understand the importance of helping your son engage in a strong support system. In this article, we will explore the compelling reasons why men need a strong support system and how it can have a positive impact on their mental, emotional, and physical well-being.

1. Mental Health: Seeking professional support will make a significant difference in overcoming mental health challenges. Taking care of your son’s mental health is extremely important for you and your family. It is no surprise that research reveals that men are less likely than women to seek help for mental health issues. This resistance can lead to higher rates of untreated conditions such as depression or anxiety. Meeting with a certified counselor is an important step to take if your son is dealing with depression, anxiety, or other mental health disorders. So, please begin there.

It’s perfectly normal and extremely vital to reach out for help when you need it. Please know that your son is not alone in this journey. Whether it’s scheduling counseling sessions with a professional, or joining a strong Christian support group, having someone to listen, understand, and give practical advice can help him process his thoughts and heal his mind. Bottling up feelings can really mess with your son’s head and relationships. So, have the courage to help him find a biblical counselor or engage in a good Christian support network that will give your son space to talk about what’s going on when he is dealing with life’s difficult circumstances.

2. Emotional Resilience: Men often face societal pressure to suppress their emotions and appear strong and unshakable at all times. However, denying or ignoring emotions can have detrimental effects on mental well-being and relationships. A strong Christian support system can provide for your son a safe space to express his emotions, process difficult feelings, receive validation and encouragement. Feeling understood and supported by others can boost emotional resilience and help your son cope with life’s ups and downs more effectively.

The next time you feel like your son is drowning in one of life’s unexpected storms, remember you are not alone. There are men out there who have walked this road ahead of him. Their wisdom is profound, and their support will be a breath of fresh air to your son’s weary soul. The Apostle Paul said, “…So that we may be able to comfort those who are in affliction with the comfort with which we ourselves are comforted by God” (2 Corinthians 1:4). That’s God’s plan. He raises up others who have endured similar experiences to comfort you with compassion and care because they’ve been in your shoes and they know how you feel.

3. Relationship Building: Strong godly relationships are key to overall well-being and happiness. Men who have a strong Christian support network of friends, family, and mentors are more likely to have fulfilling personal and professional relationships. Supportive individuals can offer your son guidance, advice, and feedback, helping him improve communication skills, conflict resolution, and emotional intelligence. Building strong connections with others can foster a sense of belonging and reduce feelings of loneliness and isolation. Church is a great place for your son to build godly relationships. So, don’t hesitate to insist that your son regularly attend youth group, Sunday School and Christian retreats or camps. If your son is having trouble making friends, consider these insights in my article: 10 Things You Might Be Doing Wrong if You Have No Friends at Church.

4. Physical Health: The mind-body connection is well-established, and the impact of social support on physical health should not be underestimated. Research has shown that individuals with strong social ties tend to have better physical health outcomes, lower stress levels, and reduced risk of chronic diseases. Help your son understand the need for a Christ honoring support system that encourages healthy habits, such as regular exercise, nutritious eating, and stress management, to positively impact his overall health and well-being.

5. Personal Growth: A strong support system can serve as a source of motivation, inspiration, and accountability for your son to pursue personal growth and self-improvement. Supportive individuals can challenge your son to step out of his comfort zones, set goals, and strive for continuous learning and development. Whether it’s pursuing a new hobby, furthering education, or making positive lifestyle changes, having a support system that believes in your son’s potential can empower him to reach his full capabilities.

In conclusion, the case for men needing a strong Christian support system is clear and compelling. Even when your son prefers to engage only in virtual socialization, you would do well to help him minimize his sudo social experience to opt for real-life, in person, support groups through Christian fellowship. By nurturing meaningful relationships, seeking help when needed, and fostering a sense of community, your son can improve his mental, emotional, and physical well-being.

It is essential for men to prioritize building and maintaining a strong support system that promotes their overall health, resilience, and personal growth. Remember Mom, if your son has grown resistant to real life engagement, it’s okay to ask for help from your pastor or youth leaders. We need each other to lean on and to help our children cultivate a network of supportive individuals who have your son’s spiritual growth and best interests at heart.

For more on this topic read:

Rhonda’s book: Moms Raising Sons to Be Men

Rhonda’s article: 5 Reasons Christian Men Need a Strong Support System

Rhonda Stoppe is the best selling author of 7 books, a popular media personality and engaging biblical teacher. “I could have listened to Rhonda talk all night,” is what audiences say. In more than thirty years of ministry, Stoppe has helped thousands of women live without regrets. She’s the podcast host: Old Ladies Know Stuff  a Crosswalk contributor and popular media guest – awarded the “Best of Episode” by Focus on the Family  To book Rhonda for your next event / Learn More: NoRegretsWoman.com

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